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Hi, Hater.....

I consider myself to be a pretty cool person. I am sometimes giddy. Sometimes chatty. Sometimes funny; yet, lame as my daughter says. I don't think I am better than anyone. And I most certainly am no hater! I Googled the word "hater" and this is what I found: Hater is a label used to refer to people who use negative and critical comments and behavior to bring another person down by making them look or feel bad.


To be a hater requires a lot of action. It requires a person to think, to do, and to feel things outside of being positive, supportive, and optimistic. Hating on someone brings about a gloominess and a weakness. Being a hater promotes pain and creates low self-esteem. Incidentally, gloom, weakness, pain and low self-esteem are the reason a person has become a hater in the first place. In hindsight, you can only put out what's inside of you.


Haters don't feel good about some part of themselves or some part of their lives. I'm not saying they are evil or depressed or not nice at times. Some of them camouflage the act of being a hater well; by being mean spirited and/or spiteful . What I am saying is that being a hater comes from a place inside of you that you want to escape from or are ashamed of. It stems from something that has festered on the inside and manifests itself from time to time in the form of "hating on" the next person. For instance, not being willing to compliment or congratulate or support someone who got the promotion, won the award, received the recognition, won the prize, looked cute in that outfit, and so-on and etc., has to be felt first. Before the action comes the feeling and then there is the mental thought associated with it; you literally have to think of ways to be negative and demeaning before actually performing the act. You have to make a conscious effort to be a hater.


Some people are so set on being a hater, that they have to recruit others into their web of misery in an effort to rationalize and justify their hate or their pain. For example, a hater has to find someone who is not familiar with a person or situation and then relay a lot lies, false truths, and a false version of events. The hater feeds all of this information to the listener, who again is totally unaware of the real truth, and the listener begins to believe what they are hearing. The listener has become a victim and, in doing so, begins to hate on someone they know nothing about. And this feeds the beast. Why? Why tear down someone because you hurt? Could it be the juxtaposition of jealousy, greed, or envy? This has to be stressful. Hating can't be good for a person's health.


It's never a good thing to be hurtful towards someone who is blessed. Just because that person smiles and has the appearance of happiness, doesn't mean they have it all together. It means they choose to be on the right side of things. It could be because they pray and give thanks to The Father. And by giving Him praise, He puts a spirit of happiness and favor and winning over them.


Remember, God don't like ugly. If you are a hater, pray that spirit out of you. If you don't believe in prayer, try meditating and looking inward to find and destroy the beast inside of you that is causing your pain, anger, and bitterness. Find some joy and happiness in your life. Focus on it. Because when it comes to being a hater, ain't nobody got time for that!


As for me, I say this to my haters: Piss on yourself! (words often spoken by my Grandma Loretta)



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